How to Deliver your Best Man's Speech
Tips from our experts on how to combat nerves and deliver your speech like a pro.
Getting a bit of extra help from Mr J Daniels’ might seem like a good idea at the time go easy on the Dutch courage. Alcohol is a diuretic so can dry your mouth out and too much could cause you to find your speech far funnier than the guests.
You probably think you won’t need to remember to breathe, after all you’ve been doing it all your life and haven’t keeled over yet but focusing on breathing really can help you deliver your best man’s speech. According to Mindtools.com "Adrenalin causes you to breathe shallowly. By breathing deeply your brain will get the oxygen it needs and the slower pace will trick your body into believing you are calmer."
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Wet Your Whistle
The adrenalin associated with nerves is something else that can cause your mouth to go dry, have a glass of water handy and take sips if needed. However try not to reach for the glass to often this will only let people know how nervous you are and could make them nervous too.
Print your speech out but use it as a guide rather than something to hide behind and try to avoid simply reading it word for word off the page.
Take Your Cue
Cue cards, are easier a brilliant trick. They’re easier to hold and you can simply highlight the key points or jokes making them easier to read and pace your speech.
Give Them The Eye
Making eye contact shows confidence so use your printed speech or cue cards as a prompt rather than just staring at the page and reading it like a drone. You're a good looking guy so take time to look at the guests and let them see your confidence, it’ll make them more relaxed and confident in your speech.
Take It Slow
Speak loudly and clearly and try not to rush through your speech but give pauses for the laughter (hopefully in the right places). SkillsYouNeed.com suggest "Speak more slowly than you would in a conversation, and leave longer pauses between sentences. This slower pace will calm you down, and it will also make you easier to hear, especially at the back of a large room."
Try reading the first part of your best man’s speech out loud. Now read it again... But this time… Try leaving a few pauses (a pause should be no longer then 1-2 seconds, you don’t want to sound like Captain Kirk).
Expressions are really important, if you watch the best comedians the faces they use when delivering the killer lines really help drive the jokes home. Practice your speech in front of a mirror and watch your face, while you don’t want to make it look like a gurning competition or you’ve got some kind of nervous tick, you should use expression.
Practice Makes Perfect
Practice reading your speech aloud as much as possible and if you're still worried read it out to someone else for their opinion on your jokes/stories or feedback on your delivery.
Get Their Kit Off
The old wives tale of... visualising your audience naked really doesn't work, the last time we tried it during a wedding speech people commented on how much time we spent looking at the bride's hot sister.